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Comment on Beggars, Speculators…and Housewives by scribblehappy

scribblehappy — Fri, 10 May 2013 03:47:52 +0000

Yeah, it’s pretty much a given that if somebody absolutely must stay home to tend to the family, it must be the woman by default, though her conforming to such social expectations doesn’t really make the society any more respectful of the stay-at-home wife. Far from it, actually, and that’s the irony.

Comment on Beggars, Speculators…and Housewives by Deeps

Deeps — Thu, 09 May 2013 06:56:53 +0000

Agree with Ash..a lot has to do with conditioning. A housewife is never questioned or pointed fingers at for ‘choosing to be one because she is ‘expected’ to stay at home and tend to her family whereas a husband when, so much as even talks of quitting and staying home, is often discouraged because he is afterall the provider and ‘expected’ to bring in the moolah. So any change in the set-up is scoffed at, I feel. This bracketing is what needs to change.

BTW I am a housewife and I have no interest or inclination towards gold or jewellery whatsoever! Why, I didnt even know the gold prices had crashed!

Comment on Beggars, Speculators…and Housewives by scribblehappy

scribblehappy — Sat, 04 May 2013 08:51:30 +0000

Hehe true. Men have made rapid progress in exercising their right to wear as much jewellery as their wives I remember a time when men wearing chains and bracelets attracted disparaging comments, though a gold watch and a ring or two have always been considered acceptable. Four rings, though, still look a bit excessive, don’t you think?

Comment on Beggars, Speculators…and Housewives by Amit

Amit — Sat, 04 May 2013 03:27:44 +0000

I think an average Indian male wears more gold that his ‘housewife’ wife nowadays – a gold chain, 4 gold rings, a gold bracelet, a gold watch.
And no sane man/woman wants to wear gold in public nowadays, unless you want a ‘man’ to snatch that away on a speeding bike.

Comment on Beggars, Speculators…and Housewives by scribblehappy

scribblehappy — Thu, 02 May 2013 07:50:51 +0000

Agree. Conditioning does play a part, and this is most obvious when very qualified women decide to take a career break ‘so they can be with the kids . Because one never, or very rarely, sees men take a break to be with the kids.

Comment on Beggars, Speculators…and Housewives by scribblehappy

scribblehappy — Thu, 02 May 2013 07:33:57 +0000

,// do only housewives wear gold?// This!
Yes RM it is indeed sad. I wish people weren’t quite so uncharitable about them.

Comment on Beggars, Speculators…and Housewives by scribblehappy

scribblehappy — Thu, 02 May 2013 05:37:57 +0000

LOL on Bachi Karkaria’s excessive punning putting you off. I agree she overdoes it sometimes.
You’ve been following Jug Suraiya since when he started out in the sixties? Wow!
The Times of My Life sounds like an interesting read. It’s been on my bucket-list for a while now.
I also like M J Akbar’s (fortnightly?) columns in the STOI.

Agree with you that a general lack of higher education amongst housewives in the previous generations led to fewer frustrations. Very true. Of course things are vastly different with this generation where housewives are better-educated, know very well what they’re missing and end up feeling shortchanged and frustrated. Add to it the general condescension and patronisation that come their way, which is kind of poignant when you realize that most of them never really chose to be ‘ just housewives’.

Part-time jobs might be the solution in some cases but not everyone is enthused by this option because part-time jobs tend to be ill-paid. Positions of low responsibility are also low in job-satisfaction, so some might not see the point in taking one up at all. Of course that is one way of looking at it. Ultimately, the fact remains that something must be better than nothing at all.

Comment on Beggars, Speculators…and Housewives by R's Mom

R's Mom — Thu, 02 May 2013 05:30:48 +0000

Errr..if he feels that gold is not a good investment, why tell it to the ‘housewife’ I am not too clear..do only housewives wear gold?? My mom is ‘not’ a housewife, but she wears gold…Jeez! I need to tell her this eh?

Sarcasm over!

I loved what you wrote SH! Its funny how married women who dont work are categorized! actually its not funny..its really sad! I wonder if anyone from the census realised how hard it is to stay at home and do all the housework!

Comment on Beggars, Speculators…and Housewives by scribblehappy

scribblehappy — Thu, 02 May 2013 03:57:19 +0000

//even if they’ve been given an education, it’s not oriented to any real world career.//

Exactly. This happens all the time, and it is potentially crippling. The thing is, if you are not assertive enough to demand opportunities to develop your skills , you’re also likely to be meek enough to agree to an early marriage, early kids and so on. It’s like getting caught in a trap once and for all.

Women who give up established careers to bring up kids have it better socially, especially if everyone is aware that its a temporary break. Sure,they end up with gaps in their resume which hurts their careers big time but in my experience they are spared the sniggers reserved for ‘good-for-nothing’ housewives.

Comment on Beggars, Speculators…and Housewives by Ashwathy

Ashwathy — Wed, 01 May 2013 06:42:23 +0000

Lack of access to opportunity (even via parental restriction or spousal restriction) is many a time a cause for the “home-maker” to remain so. At other times it is also conditioning… that women are expected to give home and family the first priority. I feel like screaming sometimes. What about the life outside home and family? Why does nobody even mention that!